"Four weeks from the start of the intervention"
From Mr Amanda and Gerhard Zelter (Bonn - Germany)
in relation to their 7 year old daughter
Dear Warwick
We wanted to write and thank you for a virtual revolution in our
household. Before your visit, and the subsequent implementation
of your tailor-made programme, we existed in a terrorist-
occupied domain. The terrorist was our 7 year old daughter,
Margaret.
The transition was immediate and dramatic and we are now living
in a harmonious, communicative and joyous home. We couldn't
quite believe how complete the transition was, almost from the
first day. Margaret adopted the new 'regime' with open arms, as
if it was exactly what she had been waiting for. Now four weeks
later it has become part of our lives and we all welcome the
boundaries which, incidentally, we all feel very comfortable with
and they are easily adhered to.
It is now clear that, as parents, the way we respond, is
responsible for our children's behaviour.
Sometimes it is difficult to find the way (and our parents were
not always good role models, so we have found ourselves trying to
redefine the pathway).
With our exceptionally bright child, who would challenge us at
every turn, we were not consistent and diligent enough to provide
her with the boundaries within which she could contain herself.
She was out of control. What seemed acceptable boundaries for
other parents and children to create good behaviour, was not
enough for Margaret. You gave us not only the method by which
to create firm and fair boundaries, but also a clearer insight
into parenting: you helped us to define what it was and what
worked.
We also really appreciated your compassionate but honest
personality, coupled with your deep-felt integrity, intelligence
and 'hands-on' approach. To have you supporting us in the
background gave us enormous courage and confidence, as well as
excellent advice from day-to-day. It was really the best thing
that we have done for our daughter, and us!
One aspect of the change in our daughter that you said might well
follow from her not being able to manipulate us, which, to be
frank, we did not really think would occur is also becoming
noticeable. Margaret is now developing quality friendships and
learning how to be a good friend, rather than a controlling and
dominating force of energy without any thoughts for others. We
suspect that this, until now, sorely missed skill will continue
to develop until she reaches her natural place.
Thank you once again and we wish you well with your mission.
There are many parents who would welcome your sound advice in
their homes - I just wish that they could all have the benefit of
your services.
Kindest regards
Amanda and Gerhard Zelter
Behaviour Change
Consultancy 24 Rochdale, Harold Road, London, SE19 3TF
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